Steven Kotter Maddox
November 12, 1947 ~ October 25, 2013
Viewing: Monday from 6:00 to 8:00 p.m. at Gillies Funeral Chapel, 634 East 200 South, Brigham City, Utah.
Funeral services: Tuesday, October 29, 2013 at 11:00 a.m. at the Willard Stake Center, 8280 South Highway 89
Interment: Ben Lomond Cemetery in North Ogden, Utah
Steven (Steve) Kotter Maddox our beloved husband, father, brother, employer, and friend, completed the final moments of his courageous battle with Lou Gehrig’s disease at home, on Friday, October 25, 2013, surrounded by the love and prayers of his family. He passed on to a new life where this disease can never hurt him again. He was 65 years old. Steve was born November 12, 1947 in Brigham City, Utah to Wilma Marie Kotter and Irvin Benjamin Maddox. He was a graduate of Box Elder High School, and also graduated from Weber State College with a Bachelor of Science in Political Science. He served his country in the Navy for four years from 1970– 1974, where he worked as a journalist for the Master Chief Petty Officer of the Navy. In 1967, he married Judy Ann Merrell (divorced). From this marriage they had four children, John, Lisa, Irvin and Gabrielle. He then married Shirley Spencer (divorced). In 2003, he married Karen Faber West, his loving wife who survives him and cared selflessly for him during his illness. He was an active member of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints. He enjoyed racing cars, flying airplanes, and gazing at stars. He would say that he felt closest to his Father in Heaven when studying the work of His hands through a telescope. More than anywhere else on earth, Dad’s home was Maddox Ranch House, where he grew up and learned the restaurant business from the masters, his parents Irv and Wilma. He began by washing dishes at 8 years old to eventually succeeding his Dad as President and CEO at the age of 40. During his career at Maddox, he developed several new recipes and business models, and the restaurant thrived under his leadership. Without question, the highlight of his career was the chance to build close relationships with family and friends, as they worked side by side for decades, guiding the restaurant ship through many a storm. He was beloved by his employees and known by all to be kind, generous, and dedicated to excellence. He used to say that it “lowered his blood pressure” to be at Maddox. He loved his business and the people he worked with more than he could express. Like a character from a great piece of literature, Dad was complex, unpredictable, and imperfect, but he won us all over by his warmth and enthusiasm, the way his voice and smile could light up a room, the interest he showed in others, and his compassion. He was the pillar of strength for his family. He was the one we would lean on in times of crisis, and he was always there for us when we needed him. We struggle to imagine life without him, but we will carry on by following his example and taking care of each other. We do not wish this experience of ALS on any family, but we acknowledge that it has indeed been a blessing to serve him as he served us and be able to demonstrate our love to him while he was suffering from this disease. We would like to specifically thank two exemplary people, Cora Minneboo, his caregiver, and Sheri Easley, his nurse, who gave not only their time and skill, but also their hearts to serve Steve in his hour of greatest need. We can never repay them for what they have done for our family. In lieu of flowers, we would like to request donations to the ALS Guardian Angels organization, a charity founded for the sole purpose of providing assistance to families who are struggling with the significant financial burdens of ALS. Donations can be made online at alsguardianangels.com Surviving are his wife, Karen; four children: John (Michelle) Maddox; Lisa (Jeff) Sedlak; Irvin (Donna) Maddox; Gabrielle (Sky) Faber; step children: Joshua (Jamie) West; Jessica (Khalid) Ballouli; Jordan (Kamri) West; Jennilyn (Christopher) Plowman; Cary (Halie) Spencer; Gary (Mindy) Spencer; 10 grandchildren and four siblings, Lynn and Doyle Maddox; Gale (DeRevo) Maddox and Jolene Babcock Strawn. He was preceded in death by his parents and one brother, Donald Maddox. Funeral services will be held on Tuesday, October 29, 2013 at 11:00 a.m. at the Willard Stake Center, 8280 South Highway 89. A public viewing will be held only on Monday from 6:00 to 8:00 p.m. at Gillies Funeral Chapel, 634 East 200 South, Brigham City, Utah. Interment will be in the Ben Lomond Cemetery in North Ogden, Utah, where military honors will be accorded by the Box Elder Combined Veterans Honor Guard.
I was so sorry to hear about the passing of Steve. I got to know him through my 13 years at Maddox Child Care. He loved all the little children and they all thought he was special. They were always excited when he would come over to visit. Steve was a very kind and caring person and I am glad that I got to know him. I appreciated all that he did for me through my years at the Child Care. He will be greatly missed by all. I send my love and condolences to his family.
So sorry to hear of Steve's death. He was a good man with many good qualities.
I want to let you know of my deep sorrow with the passing of Steve. Steve served on the Board of the Utah Restaurant Association for many years. His success and example of how to operate a successful restaurant earned Steve the respect and admiration of restaurant owners throughout the state. He was selected as the Restauranteur of the Year and honored with Golden Spoon award. We will truly miss this gentle giant in the restaurant industry!
Melva Sine President/CEO Utah Restaurant Association
My husband and I are in North Carolina visiting my youngest daughter, Heather Ford Anderson, and her family. Both Heather & I worked in the drive-in and wish we could be there to give our condolences in person. Actually Steve and I are the same age and it is a real tragedy to see him taken by such a horrible disease. The only comfort is that you now know he is now where there is no pain. We send our love to all the family.
Bobby and Daneec Ludwig AND Heather and Colt Anderson and family
Our family was saddened to hear of the passing of Steve Maddox. We send condolences to his wife, Karen, and his children. Also to his brothers Lynn and Doyle. Our father, Lloyd Olsen of Paradise, was a lifetime friend of Irvin Maddox Sr. and we grew up in the Maddox home on the main road in Paradise which our Dad purchased from Grandpa Maddox about 1933. John and Rosemary Olsen worked at Maddox Ranch House in the 1950's- 60's. When John retired from Raddison Hotels about 2000, he worked with Steve as a consultant in hospitality issues. Many of our important family occasions were celebrated over your wonderful food. We will continue to patronize "the finest restaurant in Utah" as we travel up I-15 and Hwy 89 in days to come.
Thinking of all of you,
Families of John/Susanne Olsen Rosemary O./Bill Mathews Dixie O./Linc Clifford Rosemary
Prayers for Steves family...amazing man,will be greatly missed. Jon,we will be unable to attend viewing or funeral,we moved to Albuquerque,NM. Please let Irving and Lisa know they. in our prayers as is the rest of your family.
I am so sorry to hear this news. I have felt so sad. You are ;in my prayers and thoughts. Please let me know, whenever you are able, an address, an email or phone number.
I met Steve in a class when I was getting my undergraduate degree. He 'hid' the Maddox connection as long as he could. He was generous and kind with both time and interest. He will be missed. My family and I will keep you in our prayers.
Karen & family,
we are so very sorry for your loss. We knew when you & Steve came to our home to look at Rico that Steve was a very special & kind person.
Ernie & Caren
Condolences to the Maddox family and all who knew Steve, he was a great boss and inspired me to do my best, he had great trust in the people he employed and was as generous and driven as he was trusting.
I'm so sorry for your loss. I will pass on your request to donate to the ALS Guardian Angels organization. Your family is in my families thoughts and prayers today in this time of grieving.
I was shocked and saddened to hear the news of Steve's passing. So sorry for your loss. Steve hired me for my first real job 31 years ago. To this day I remember what a great man and leader he was. He was so much more than a boss or manager. He taught me many critical skills I use to this day. Such as honest hard work, mutual trust and how to reward and recognize people for a job well done. The Maddox family and their restaurant is the best of the best. Steve will be greatly missed. Our thoughts and prayers are with you all.
Dean and Debbie Rettew
Sorry to hear about Stevens passing. I did not know him personally but I know how ALS can affect the person who has it and their family s. I have had members of my own family pass from it and I myself was just diagnosed with it about a month ago. My prays are with you and your family.
Sorry to hear the sad news. I apologize that I could not be there with you today. I would love to hear from you sometime.
Dear Maddox Family:
I was saddened to read of Steve's passing. Your family has been so special to the Olsen family thru the years. When my first husban, John was so ill in Mappleton, Steve took the time to drive down to Mapleton to say goodby to him. Our family really appreciated that very much. That was the kind of man Steve was. So caring and thoughtful to others. I'm sure he and John will have a great reunion. Our Sincere Sympathy to all of your family.
Susanne and Jack Buttars
Dear Lisa and family,
What a beautiful obituary. I want to express my love and condolences and hope that you find comfort. Best,
Julie Tams Onstott
We are so very sorry to hear of Steve's passing. We send our thoughts and prayers for Steve's family.
We were traveling and I saw that Steve had passed away. I am so sorry for your loss, you have my deepest condolences. Steve will forever be remembered as my perfect prom date complete with a GTO!
Jordan and Kamri,
We're so sorry to hear of your loss. From what we knew of Steve, he was a wonderful man. Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. May the lord bless you with beautiful memories to comfort you through this tough time.
Brett, Toni & Carson
Dear Karen and Family,
We are so sorry to hear of the loss of your sweet husband and father. Please know that you are in our thoughts and prayers at this time.
Hal and Holly Christensen
I first met Steve when we were both 8 years old in Ladd Anderson's big sand box on 6th east and 2nd north in Brigham. He was there with Ladd with Gale and Dee Maddox's children, Dain, Chad my brother John, Craig Simper and me. I got to know A very good athlete, liked Golf. Steve expressed himself well, took time to listen to you, treated you with respect. He always had a smile as a kid and growing up. He would come out to say Hi to former classmates when we dined at Maddox. Steve was held in high regard by his classmates of the BEHS class of 1966. I will always remember him for his charity, integrity and honesty. His parents and siblings the same. They are all humble gracious, welcoming. Steve cared about people-it showed. Swift to its close ebbs out life's little day. Earth's joys grow dim, it's glories pass away. But friends and family never die. They live on in me and you and are passed from one generation to the next. Till me meet again Steve.
Dear Karen,Joshua, Jessica,Jordan and Jennilyn,
We are deeply saddened by Steve's passing. While we only met him a few times, his liveliness, zest for life and good humor was immediately apparent. We know the coming months will be hard but trust the love in your family and the good memories will help you get through it.
Don and Jo